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'' Ae logo! apne parvar-digaar se daro jis ne tum sab ko aik jaan
se peda kya aur is jandaar se is ka jora peda kya. Aur un dono se bohat se mard
aur aurtain philayin.' '
( surah al-nisaa :1 )
Mafhuum yeh hai ke mard aur aurat aik hi chashma ki do nhrin hain.
Islam se qabal aurton ki hesiyat yeh thi ke mard se apni meeras
samjhta tha. Aurat ki razamandi ya mashwaray ka koi tasawur nahi tha. Mard
jahan chahay aurat ko farokht kar dete they.
Islam ne aurat ke mardon ki meeras honay ke tasawwur ko khatam kar
diya. Quran mein wazeh tor par irshad hai ke
'' Qayamat ke din mar dawer aurat yaksaa hunge. Jaza ya saza sab ko
un ke aamaal ke mutabiq miley gi.' '
'' Rishton ka khayaal rakho. Allah tumhe har waqt dekh raha hai.' '
( surah al-nisaa :1 )
'' Mard haakim hain aurton par is wastay ke barayi di Allah ne aik
ko aik par aur is ke liye kharch kiye unhon ne apne maal.
'' ( Surah al-nisaa :54)
Islam ne mard ko jo bartari di hai woh sirf is liye hai ke mard ko
khandan ka sarbarah wa kafeel banaya gaya hai. Woh bhi is liye ke Allah
Taala ne is ko jismani tor par aurton se
ziyada taaqat di hai. Lekin bohat se halaat mein aurat woh kuch karti hai jo
mard nahi sakta. Maslanno merey bachay ko pait mein ghiza faraham karna.
Paidaiesh ke baad siwa do saal taq doodh pilana. Buzurag khawateen o hazraat
tasleem karte hain ke aik bachay ka kaam chaar barray admion ke barabar hota
hai.
'' Aur hum ne ensaan ko walidain ke baray mein takeed ki ke is ki
maa ne usay pait mein rakha. Kamzoree par kamzoree jhelai aur do baras baad
doodh choraya. Yeh ke haq maan mera aur apne maa baap ka. Aakhir mujh hi taq
aana hai.' '
( surah luqman : 14 )
Islam ne aurat ko haq diya ke woh infiradi tor par kaarobar aur
masharti rawabit qaim kar sakti hai. Jaidaad rakh sakti hai. Gharz har woh kaam
kar sakti hai jo mard kar sakta hai. sahabiyat
aur deegar maroof musalman khawateen ke waqeat se saabit hota hai ke
unhon ne mulazmat, kaarobar, zaraat, tableegh, tib, fouj aur deegar tamam shobo
mein azadana kaam kya hai. Daur jahliat mein aurat ko kamzor, lagar, bewaqoof
aur naaqis al-aqal kaha jata tha aur shadi ke muamlay mein walidain ya walii ki
razamandi zurori samjhi jati thi. Islam ne jahan maa baap ki waarsat aur
zindagi ke deegar shobo mein aurat ke haqooq mutayyan kiye hain wahan shadi
jaisay ahem maslay par bhi is ki raye aur razamandi ko nazar andaaz nahi kya.
Agar aik aqil aur baaligh larki brza o raghbat shadi ke liye razamand nah ho to
shadi nahi ho sakti.
Hazrat abbu huraira kehte hain ke nabi kareem (s.a.w) ne farmaya ke
kanwari aurat se nikah ke muamlay mein ijazat haasil ki jaye agar daryaft karne
par woh khamosh rahi to isi ko is ki ijazat samgha jaye aur agar inkaar kere to
is par jabar nahi karna chahiye.
( tirmizi, abbu-dawood, nesayi,darmi)
Hazrat Ibn Abbas kehte hain hay aik kanwari larki ne nabi kareem ki
khidmat mein haazir ho kar arz kya ke is ke baap ne is ka nikah kar diya hai
woh is nikah se nakhush hai. Aap (s.a.w) ne usay nikah khatam karne ka ikhtiyar
day diya. ( abbu dawod )
Hazrat khansa , bint-e khudam kehti hain ke woh bewa theen un ke
waalid ne un ka nikah kar diya woh is nikah se nakhush theen. Unhon ne nabi
kareem (s.a.w) ki khidmat mein haazir ho kar is ke mutaliq arz kya. Aap (s.a.w)
ne woh nikah radd kar diya. ( bukhari )
Hazrat Ibn Abbas kehte hain ke bareera ka shohar aik naheef siyah
faam ghulam tha. Woh madinah ki galiyo mein rota hua bareera ke peechay peechay
phirta tha, aanso-on se is ki daarhi bhiig jati thi. Nabi kareem (s.a.w) ne aik roz farmaya :
'' Abbas! Kya tumhe is par taajjub aur herat nahi hai ke mughis ,
bareera ko chahta hai aur bareera is se nafrat karti hai ?' '
Phir Aap (s.a.w) ne bareera se farmaya :
'' Bareera ! Kash to rujoo kar layte' ' yani mughis se dobarah
nikah kar layte.
Bareera ne arz kya :
'' Ya Rasool (s.a.w) ! Kya
Aap (s.a.w) mujhe hukum dete hain ?' '
Aap (s.a.w) ne farmaya ke' ' mein hukum nahi deta sifarish karta hon.'
'
Bareera ne arz kya :' ' mujhe is ki zaroorat nahi.' ' ( bukhari )
Zamana jahlat mein mard kharray kharray teen dafaa talaq ke alfaaz
keh kar apni biwi ko alehda kar deta tha. Islam ne is tareeqay ko khatam kar ke
aik laiha amal banaya ke miyan biwi ke darmain jhagrre ki soorat mein dono ke
khandano mein se aik aik saalis muqarrar kya jaye. Aur woh un mein sulah
karanay ki koshish karen. Agar kamyaab nah hon to phir teen waqfon se talaqey
di jayen.
Islam ne talaq ki ijazat shadeed zaroorat mein di hai. Hazrat ibn
umar se rivayet hai ke Aap (s.a.w) ne farmaya :
'' Allah ke nazdeek halal cheezon mein se sab se ziyada
napasandeedah cheez talaq hai.' '
( Abbu dawod. Ibn maja )
Hazrat Mahmood ban labid kehte hain ke nabi kareem (s.a.w) ko bataya gaya ke 1 shakhs ne apni biwi ko
teen aik sath talaqaydi hain. Aap (s.a.w) ghazabnak ho kar kharray ho gay aur
farmaya :
'' Kya khuda ki kitaab ke sath khail karte ho? Halaank mein
tumahray darmain mojood hon.''
( nasayi )
'' Aurat ko talaq nah do kyunkay Allah aisay mardon ko pasand nahi
karta jo bhanwray ki terhan phool phool ka mazza chahkte phrin.' '
(al fazahat)
Shetan apne giroh mein sab se acha usay maanta hai jo miyan biwi
mein tafreeq kara day.
(mashka )
