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Question:
Approximately
two years prior, I developed an intense and overwhelming attachment to a fellow
student at my college. I consequently dispatched my family to her household to
formally initiate matrimonial negotiations, which culminated in a mutual
agreement. The young woman herself expressed readiness for the union, while I,
for my part, found myself wholly immersed in the boundless ocean of amorous
affection.
Nevertheless, owing to my profoundly religious convictions and traditional
cultural orientation, I am reluctant to permit my fiancée to attend college or
frequent public spaces while adorned with cosmetics. Hitherto, I have refrained
from explicitly forbidding her from doing so. However, internally, I experience
profound agitation whenever she applies makeup, perceiving it as an attempt to
attract the attention of other men. Similarly, whenever she travels or moves
about, I am gripped by an anxious premonition that she may ultimately choose to
wed another. I remain confounded as to how best to navigate these pervasive
anxieties. Furthermore, I harbor a pronounced aversion to her operating a motor
vehicle, compounded by my observation that she often fixes her gaze upon
unfamiliar men encountered in public. Both of us are qualified medical
practitioners, and our nuptials are impending.
Answer:
You
are manifesting symptoms consistent with a psychological disorder. It is
imperative that you seek appropriate treatment before proceeding with marriage,
as unresolved psychological concerns can lead to considerable difficulties in
the marital relationship. A prudent course of action would be to inform your
fiancée of your mental state and the nature of your concerns, so that she may
make an informed decision and adequately prepare herself for any challenges
that may arise. It is essential that you do not enter into this significant
commitment without addressing these psychological issues, as this could result
in profound distress for both you and your fiancée.
Khwaja Shamsuddin Azeemi
Nearly three decades ago, the esteemed spiritual scholar and blessed guide, Khwaja Shamsuddin Azeemi (R.A), inaugurated a mission of public service with the objective of liberating humanity from afflictions, psychological distress, and physical ailments. For ten years, he remained in contemplative retreat, silently advancing this sacred commitment to the service of creation (khidmat-e-khalq). As the hearts of the people began turning toward him, he employed the medium of mass communication. In 1969, this initiative was formally introduced to the public through newspapers and spiritual journals. According to conservative estimates, through written correspondence and face-to-face interaction—particularly via national publications and the Roohani Digest—Hazrat Azeemi has extended spiritual guidance and healing to over 1.4 million men and women, addressing intricate personal crises and intractable medical conditions. Today, it is not uncommon that wherever a few individuals gather, and a seemingly insoluble dilemma or incurable illness is mentioned, someone inevitably suggests: “Establish contact with Azeemi Sahib—the matter will be resolved.”
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