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Question: My
sister (Sh), aged 24, is well-regarded for her beauty and stature. Her
appearance often captures the attention of those around her, but unfortunately,
this has given rise to a significant psychological and social dilemma. On
several occasions, she has attracted the interest of married men, some of whom
expressed an intention to marry her. Naturally, such propositions were
immediately rejected. Additionally, a young man, with limited education and
financial stability, who associates with individuals of questionable character,
approached her for marriage. Upon assessing his background, we respectfully
declined the offer, recognizing that marriage is a serious commitment, and this
individual was not suitable for such a responsibility. However, following this
rejection, the young man has responded with an alarming level of aggression,
frequently contacting us through various phone numbers, issuing both veiled and
explicit threats. His behavior includes threats of abduction, designed to
disgrace our family, referring to a family photo in which my sister and he
appear together. Despite these threats, my sister has maintained a dignified
silence and has not engaged with him in any manner. Nonetheless, his relentless
harassment has created an overwhelming sense of unease within our household,
and the situation seems to be escalating. Despite repeated interventions from
respected elders and family members, the young man remains unrepentant and
continues his efforts to destabilize our peace. I turn to you with a sincere
plea to provide a Qur'anic remedy, a spiritual intervention that can guide my
sister towards a better and more honorable marital prospect, and
simultaneously, lead the young man to reconsider his immoral course. My sister,
having endured significant mental distress due to this situation, has been
psychologically affected, and it is imperative that she finds mental and
emotional relief. I place my complete trust in Allah's mercy and assistance in
resolving this matter.
Answer: The
current state of society has deteriorated to a point where individuals with
strong moral values often find themselves in precarious positions, trapped by
the actions of those who disregard social and ethical norms. When the concept
of ‘freedom’ is misunderstood or misapplied in family environments, young
people are led astray, and moral boundaries become blurred. One of the most
alarming trends is the widespread harassment of women, particularly in the form
of unsolicited communication through phone calls. This issue has become so
pervasive that even institutions that are responsible for upholding the law are
often ineffective in dealing with it.
After
careful reflection on this issue, it is evident that individuals who engage in
such behavior typically lack a meaningful sense of purpose or direction in
life. They often avoid legitimate work and rely on the wealth and status of
their families. Such individuals are, in essence, suffering from psychological
disturbances, which manifest in their dysfunctional behavior. This is
particularly troubling as they fail to recognize the moral implications of
their actions, forgetting that they, too, have sisters and relatives to whom
they would never wish such treatment.
It
is my prayer that Allah, the Almighty, grants protection to all virtuous
families, safeguarding them from these societal ills. Āmīn.
To
address this situation, I recommend the following spiritual intervention: after
each obligatory prayer (ṣalāh), recite the following
verse 100 times:
"نصر من اللّٰہ و فتح
قریب"
It
is crucial not to internalize the guilt or shame caused by these disturbing
calls. This issue has become widespread and has affected many decent families.
It is now understood that the individuals who engage in such harassment are
generally suffering from deep-seated emotional and psychological issues. Their
actions are driven by feelings of inadequacy and frustration, which manifest in
harmful ways.
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